HYPERLINKS
RESPECT IN THE AUXILIARY
TRAINING TO FLOTILLA 130-08-07
SEPTEMBER 13, 2018
Respect, especially in the Auxiliary is a very important value to live by. To keep in synch with the Coast Guard core values of Honor, Respect and Devotion to Duty, it is our due diligence to hold each value close to our core. Tonight I will be speaking to the core value of respect.
Respect is more than just talking kindly and listening to someone. It is the process of taking into consideration someone’s emotion, feelings and needs. It is also focusing on another’s ideas, thoughts and preferences.
Respect is showing someone that you value their time and you care about what they have to say. It is important the other person feels your respect for them (yes sir, yes ma’am) Conversations will flow easier and the building of trust begins. There are fewer conflicts when we respect each other. People get along easier and avoid unnecessary drama when respect is present.
Respect is not only shown verbally but by one’s behaviors and actions. What are some examples of showing respect? (Be an active listener, really listen, don’t just hear. NO interruptions. Trust your teammates) What are some examples of NOT showing respect? (Eye rolling, interruptions, crude comments, looking off when conversing, walking away from hard conversations)
The concept of respect is not a new one. From ancient tribes to kings of Europe to the native American tribes, respect is not an option. In our current military respect is not an option. Back in history, if a person was not respectful, they could easily die. Hunters and gatherers had their way of dealing with those not contributing or respecting the group. (Dances with wolves-talking stick)
One way of looking at those who are disrespectful and uncooperative is they are a waste of space. They bring the group down and hard feelings are left. Sound familiar?
Today the concept of respect is somewhat different from yester year. An example might be the rich who had maids, butlers, assistants and even slaves. The rich person may not respect the help nor the help respect the boss, but because of the need to survive, they continue to work for this person. This is one example of how people can and do succeed and command respect without earning it or having people willingly give it.
Realistically, respect should and needs to be earned. There are many different ways of earning respect. What ways can you think of? (Care, motivate, encourage) Think of the Golden Rule…what about the Platinum rule? Bottom line is that if you can’t or don’t respect yourself, you won’t respect others.
Respect in the military can mean the difference between the life and death of a soldier, It can mean the difference between a court martial for the active duty or getting kicked out of the Auxilliary. It can mean a difference of your flotilla members following your lead or your ability to further your Auxiliary career.
Do you find it difficult to be respectful to someone being disrespectful to you? What can you do? (talk with them in a pleasant tone..don’t escalate the situation—always work it out at the lowest level) Just remember, you are in total control of how you react to said individual. If you are not respectful, you will be disrespected yourself. You should ALWAYS be respectful. Not to mention, when you join the auxiliary you join the Coast Guard. Through your swearing in, you are saying you will uphold the core values of Honor, Respect, and Devotion to Duty.
As Auxiliarists we need to live these core values. Stop the disrespectful behaviors. Respect and honor each other, Motivate and encourage one another. Let’s live the example of respect. Walk the talk.
TRAINING TO FLOTILLA 130-08-07
SEPTEMBER 13, 2018
Respect, especially in the Auxiliary is a very important value to live by. To keep in synch with the Coast Guard core values of Honor, Respect and Devotion to Duty, it is our due diligence to hold each value close to our core. Tonight I will be speaking to the core value of respect.
Respect is more than just talking kindly and listening to someone. It is the process of taking into consideration someone’s emotion, feelings and needs. It is also focusing on another’s ideas, thoughts and preferences.
Respect is showing someone that you value their time and you care about what they have to say. It is important the other person feels your respect for them (yes sir, yes ma’am) Conversations will flow easier and the building of trust begins. There are fewer conflicts when we respect each other. People get along easier and avoid unnecessary drama when respect is present.
Respect is not only shown verbally but by one’s behaviors and actions. What are some examples of showing respect? (Be an active listener, really listen, don’t just hear. NO interruptions. Trust your teammates) What are some examples of NOT showing respect? (Eye rolling, interruptions, crude comments, looking off when conversing, walking away from hard conversations)
The concept of respect is not a new one. From ancient tribes to kings of Europe to the native American tribes, respect is not an option. In our current military respect is not an option. Back in history, if a person was not respectful, they could easily die. Hunters and gatherers had their way of dealing with those not contributing or respecting the group. (Dances with wolves-talking stick)
One way of looking at those who are disrespectful and uncooperative is they are a waste of space. They bring the group down and hard feelings are left. Sound familiar?
Today the concept of respect is somewhat different from yester year. An example might be the rich who had maids, butlers, assistants and even slaves. The rich person may not respect the help nor the help respect the boss, but because of the need to survive, they continue to work for this person. This is one example of how people can and do succeed and command respect without earning it or having people willingly give it.
Realistically, respect should and needs to be earned. There are many different ways of earning respect. What ways can you think of? (Care, motivate, encourage) Think of the Golden Rule…what about the Platinum rule? Bottom line is that if you can’t or don’t respect yourself, you won’t respect others.
Respect in the military can mean the difference between the life and death of a soldier, It can mean the difference between a court martial for the active duty or getting kicked out of the Auxilliary. It can mean a difference of your flotilla members following your lead or your ability to further your Auxiliary career.
Do you find it difficult to be respectful to someone being disrespectful to you? What can you do? (talk with them in a pleasant tone..don’t escalate the situation—always work it out at the lowest level) Just remember, you are in total control of how you react to said individual. If you are not respectful, you will be disrespected yourself. You should ALWAYS be respectful. Not to mention, when you join the auxiliary you join the Coast Guard. Through your swearing in, you are saying you will uphold the core values of Honor, Respect, and Devotion to Duty.
As Auxiliarists we need to live these core values. Stop the disrespectful behaviors. Respect and honor each other, Motivate and encourage one another. Let’s live the example of respect. Walk the talk.